Friday, March 03, 2006

The Truth Behind the Mommy Wars

Who Decides What Makes a Good Mother?

I thought this book by Miriam Peskowitz might be of interest to some of our readers. It focuses on the debate between working and staying at home with your children. One thing I found interesting is that the author tends to blames the media for the argument that working moms and stay at home moms don't accept one another. In some cases this might be true, but for the most part, mothers tend to value other mothers figuring they are doing the best the best job they can. Don't we all want what is best for our children in the end? Peskowitz supports this argument with plenty of real stories, which makes for an interesting and quick read.

Also on the topic, here is a New York Times article from yesterday.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Interesting blog. The book sounds fascinating. I was looking up stay-at-home moms and read this entry.

Every experience I have had in the last year since I started staying-at-home would indicate that there is a great division between stay-at-home moms and working women (at least in my recent experience). I've had MANY working women say that if I weren't so LAZY or SELFISH, I would work(?) I'm not sure what exactly that means...

It seems to me that this area's value system is definitely "keep up with the Jones'" We (my husband and I) do not subscribe to that belief and for it, we are getting a lot of grief. We think this may be the reason people around here are not so accepting of me being a stay-at-home mom.

I thought you might be interested in hearing another perspective. I would like to get other people's take on this issue and see if it varies by region or if some other factor is influencing it.

Mother of two (1 year and 5 years)
Sacramento, CA