A few people have questioned the sincerity of my comment on "staying at home would mean having a clean house and gourmet meals". But I truly did believe this. I thought the kids would play together for a few hours each day while I got household chores done. My three year old plays by herself no problem, but when the one year old is awake, that means trouble. They FIGHT over everything. One would think due to their age difference that they would play separately, and on occasion, play together. But that is not the case at all, I must intervene constantly, interrupting my attempts at cooking and cleaning.
I hear from other moms that this is typical, not to expect much along the lines of a clean house and great meals. I still believe it is possible somehow to have fun, and live in a clean environment, without hiring a cleaning service. I'll let you know when we reach that point.